Many years ago, one of the most enlightening moments I had when learning more about the importance of our thoughts, was when my Mindfulness teacher talked about how we ‘make up stories’. I had been practicing observing my thinking and changing it for many years, but I’d not heard the phrase ‘making up stories’ and it stuck with me.
I began to notice how often my thinking was centered around fear of what might happen if………….
I often found myself focusing on what I don’t want, in fear or worry, rather than thinking of what I do want.
An example: my husband would drive off to work in rainy, stormy weather and I’d be worried that he might have an accident. I’d be making up all sorts of stories about consequences if that should happen.
Instead, when I became aware that I was making up a story, I’d change it to one of gratitude that he was a good driver and that he had a good, reliable car and I’d create a different story of how I was looking forward to him coming home later and the evening we’d share together.
Tip Number 1.
Observe your thinking as you go through your day and catch yourself and your ‘stories’.
Tip number 2.
If the story is creating worry, fearful or negative thoughts and feelings, calmly slow your breathing and ask yourself, “how could I change this story?” Your mind and your beliefs might tell you that seems silly and you might even argue with yourself saying something like “what’s the point of changing my story, this is my reality”.
Try it anyway – treat it like a game and after a short time of practice, you’ll find it so much more enjoyable to go through your day thinking happier, more thankful and uplifting thoughts. The results you get in your life will change too, in time.
Tip number 3.
When you notice your worrying, fearful thoughts, be kind to yourself. Take the pressure off and be as understanding and compassionate towards yourself as you would be towards your child, a good friend, family member you love, your dog, cat or other being you love and care for.
Practicing Mindfulness is about being ‘here and present’, noticing how you’re thinking, feeling and operating in your world, without judgment. If you don’t notice, how can you manage it or change it?
Change is inevitable – it’s best to be as well equipped as possible to accept it, deal with it and enthusiastically look forward to what’s yet to come.
Practicing living in the moment, not making up stories, can help you to live with more ease, less suffering, more joy and Every Day Gets Better. ❤️
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